These websites, books, and video recommendations are a combination of secular and Christian and are not a substitution for receiving professional help or guidance. Please speak with a trusted individual i.e. coach, mentor, pastor, etc., or find a therapist if you are encountering problems. Also, please note that these are not affiliates links - we do not receive anything for sharing these resources on our website. They are here for information purposes only. All book descriptions are taken from Amazon.
Rich resources from an expert on relationships and sexuality.
The Gottman Blog
"A research-based approach to creating stronger relationship"
Lots of practical and insightful tools can be found through this site.
The Prepare-Enrich Blog
Practical tips and thoughts about relationships.
A psychotherapist's take on life, especially relationships. Funny, insightful, and real.
A faith-based site that has plenty of resources for those who are engaged, newly married, married or in hurting marriages.
How We Love
The website from the authors of "How We Love" and "How We Love Our Kids." Take their free online assessments to see what "love style" you are and to find out what kind of "core pattern" your relationship might have and what to do with it.
National infertility association
A Celebration of Sex
A Celebration of Sex answers specific, often unasked questions about sexual topics, presents married couples with detailed techniques and behavioral skills for deepening sexual pleasure and intimate companionship, and is an excellent tool for premarital education.
A Lasting Promise
Offers solutions to common problems facing conflicts, problem solving, improving communication, and dealing with core issues within a Christian framework. Thoroughly revised and updated, this new edition is filled with sacred teachings of scripture, the latest research on marriage, and clear examples from the lives of couples. The book's strategies are designed to help couples improve communication, understand commitment, bring more fun into their relationship, and enhance their sex lives.
5 Days to a New Marriage
Can a marriage really change in five days? According to marriage experts and therapists Terry Hargrave and Shawn Stoever, the answer is YES. Whether your marriage needs to be rescued from desperate trouble or simply could improve from good to great, change is possible. The authors share how almost every marital conflict comes from the same place: a pattern of emotional pain buried deep within every husband and wife. When couples recognize this cycle, then learn to replace it with more marriage-affirming patterns, the results are breathtaking.
Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort—and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on forty years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.
Hold Me Tight
In Hold me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.
Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts
This is more than a book—it’s an experience, especially when you use the his/her workbooks filled with more than 40 fun exercises. Get ready for deeper intimacy with the best friend you’ll ever have. Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts, in more than 15 languages, is the most widely used marriage prep tool in the world.
The Couple Checkup
Each chapter of the book matches a category in the free individual profile. While the book stands on its own, using the Couple Checkup with the book provides the maximum benefit. In addition, each chapter contains couple exercises to help build couple strengths in a variety of areas.
The High Conflict Couple
The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.
The Meaning of Marriage
Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone—Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged—the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
With more than a million copies sold worldwide, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman's unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else.
The Five Love Languages
Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life? In the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today.
When we quit sabotaging intimacy in our relationships by demanding unconditional love, we discover something much greater―the deeply satisfying, transformational love that is companionship. In these pages psychologist, Kelly Flanagan shows how each of us has within ourselves, exactly the way we are, the gifts that are needed to cultivate the life-long relationships we are longing for, whether it is within marriage or friendship.
Sometimes marriages need some extra attention. Here are some recommendations:
Bethesda Workshops - Christian treatment for sexual addictions. Bethesda offers comprehensive treatment for individuals and for couples. Their website offers many resources
The Hideaway Experience - marriage intensives for couples in severe crisis situations—for instance, those on the brink of divorce—as well as couples who require in-depth counseling or may simply find themselves stuck and needing help progressing in their relationship.